My father, a Mason, passed away. I am his daughter and have the charm. Can I wear it?

by Liz
(Pgh, PA)

Hi! My father was a Mason and very proud of this. Although, he never discussed the Masons, his pride was clear in his multiple rings, tie clip, and a necklace charm. To honor this, the Masonic symbol is on his head stone.

My brother was given his rings. I have his charm. Forgive my ignorance. But is it at all appropriate for a daughter to wear her father's Masonic charm to show her pride in her father and his beliefs? I have very little of my father's possessions, and the charm makes me feel close to him.
Thank you,
Liz
PS: Is it correct that the "G" stands for God?

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Nov 12, 2018
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by: Bob

First off, sorry for the delay. The owner of this site, Tim, has been having some serious family problems.

I am not sure what you mean by 'charm'.

Strictly speaking, something indicating membership in Freemasonry (or any other group) should be worn only by the member. I will say however that I think it is rather sweet of you to want to remember your father like this. Condolences on your loss, ma'am.

Nov 27, 2018
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You honour your father
by: lcenter

Your request is not all that odd and less problematic really than a son who is not a Mason wanting to wear his father's ring. While it has been stated that jewelery indicating membership in the Craft should only be worn by members, it is at the end of the day only jewelery. Wearing a ring or a necklace doesn't make yo a Freemason.

It would be instantly clear to the informed observer that you were not a member of the Craft, and hopefully they would approach the subject with respect, and enquire why you wore the "jewel". You have not described the "jewel", but I am thinking it's a square and compasses, the universal emblem of Freemasonry.

This enquiry, could then lead to discussion about your father, his love of the Craft, and your love for him. No Freemason in his right mind could find fault in your actions.

A case could be made, that similarly to heraldry, a woman cannot bear the coat of arms of her father, which can only be passed down to male heirs, but a woman can be a "heraldic heiress" and hold the arms for her son if she eventually has one, who then can inherit the arms.

Such, it could be argued might be your case. You could wear your father's jewel, and someday your son will ask about it (as was my own personal history many many years ago) which would then spark a conversation and an interest in Freemasonry, and perhaps lead to a young man following in his Grandfather's footsteps and joining the Craft.

I feel if you want to wear the jewel to honour your father, then do so, it will do more good than harm.

Respectfully

Les Center, HSGW
Past Grand Superintendent
The Grand Lodge of Scotland A. F. & A. M.

Nov 28, 2018
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Your father's Masonic charm
by: Tim

Hello Liz,
and thank you for visiting Masonsmart.

Please accept our condolences on the passing of your father and our Masonic brother.

In some Masonic jurisdictions, it is considered appropriate for the wife or daughter of a Mason to wear or otherwise display a Masonic symbol. I would suggest that you follow your heart. No true Mason will fault you for wanting to honor your father's memory. However, if you want to be clear on the position of the Masonic jurisdiction of which your father was a member I might also suggest that you contact the Grand Lodge of that jurisdiction and ask them. Either way, as my learned brother states above, the charm/jewel is yours to do with as you wish. I'm just glad to know that it will not wind up in a flea market or garage sale. Thank you for that.

With kind regards and best wishes,

Tim
J.A.B.

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