Masonic rings and death

by Alan

What is the respectful and proper thing to do with my father's Masonic ring now that he has passed away?

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Aug 02, 2015
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Ring after death
by: Fred

Keep it. Cherish it. My son has all of my no longer used Masonic stuff. They're keepsakes.

Aug 02, 2015
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Ring after death
by: Anonymous

Thank you! That was my original intent but once I found this site I thought I should make sure that was A-OK. Thank you for letting me know that it is!

Oct 21, 2015
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Ring After Death
by: Nicole B.

My father who was a Master Mason just passed. While planning his funeral, I asked the Master of his lodge what to do with his rings. The Master stated that I could pass his rings down to his sons or other family member's but that they are not to wear the rings unless they themselves are or become a Master Mason. Just wanted to point that out.

Oct 22, 2015
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Good point...
by: Tim

Hi Nichole B.,

Please accept my condolences on the passing of your father.

You are correct. According to Masonic custom only a duly obligated Master Mason should wear or exhibit the symbols of same. It's a good point and we appreciate you mentioning it. Thank you.

Apr 02, 2016
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mason ring
by: Anonymous

What if the wife keeps the mason ring and won't pass it on to the son? Any guidelines on this issue?

Apr 02, 2016
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masonic ring
by: Fred

Unless provisions are made to the contrary, the ring genereally belongs to the Mason's wife after his death, she can do with it as she pleases. It is not something to create a rift over, it's a piece of jewelry. You might get her to leave it to you in her estate.

Jan 22, 2017
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Lost luster
by: Anonymous

My grandfather passed away. While he wore it, it was ruby red, gold, and mason symbol distinguishable but worn. Niw, it's silver, tarnished and stone is gray. Why?

Jan 22, 2017
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Ring
by: Fred

It would depend upon the material that the ring is made from. I wear one that is gold (plated) in color. The color is wearing off in spots, shows through as Silver.

Jan 22, 2017
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Lost luster 2
by: Anonymous

It had color while on his hand in casket, when removed after funeral, it was gray, no color and shockingly void of luster. Puzzled.

Jan 24, 2017
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Masonic light...
by: Tim

Masonic light manifests in different ways. My belief is that your Grandfather's ring shone while he was wearing it as a symbol of his Masonic light. This symbol spoke of his honor, decency and knowledge: enlightenment earned. It wasn't the ring that shone; It was your Grandfather and our Brother. And now, the symbol tells us that with his passing the light within the world is diminished, and while his light can never be replaced we need all work to increase our own.

Please accept our condolences on your Grandfather's passing, and may God bless you and yours.

Mar 10, 2017
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What to I do??
by: Anonymous

I have my Dad's ring. No one wants it. I know no Masons. I feel it would be very disrespectful to throw it a way or give it to a thrift shop.
As I said "what do I do?"

Mar 10, 2017
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No one wants it
by: Fred

Hello,
Thanks for the question. As stated several times earlier in this post, the ring belongs to the family. You have many options, you might want to contact the lodge that he belonged to, they might take it, or offer it for sale on eBay if you don't want to keep it. In short, it's yours to do what you think is best with it.

Mar 18, 2017
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What to do with dad's Masonic ring...
by: Tim

Dear Anonymous,

First, let me commend you for wanting to show respect to your father's memory by not discarding his Masonic ring. Personally, I find it almost physically painful when I see one in a thrift store or yard sale.

As Fred said, you have lots of options. Donating the ring to the Lodge your dad belonged to is a good one. My personal preference, though, is to keep it in the family for a time when someone may want it. It's a ring. It's small. It doesn't take up a lot of room. Once it's gone it's gone for good. And, you never know when a member of the family, or perhaps a future generation, will discover an interest in Freemasonry. Imagine how cool it would be for a young man or woman excited about having become a part of the Masonic family to hear the words, "Your Great Grandpa was a Freemason, and this is his Masonic ring. Now it's yours."

Aug 01, 2017
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Why?
by: Patty

My Grandfather was a Blue Lodge Mason and an Attorney. He has since passed on. My sister and I are puzzled as to why he wore a plain Black onyx ring instead of a Mason ring. It has since been passed down to my Father who died and now my Sister has it.

Aug 01, 2017
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Ring
by: Fred

Patty,
Thank you for your question. A simple onyx ring is precisely that, as not all masons wear rings, or anything that identifies them as masons. It's a ring that should be cherished by whoever has it, Masonic or not

Fred :.

Sep 06, 2017
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grand daughter of a mason
by: Anonymous

My mother just told me my grandfather, her father was a Mason. He has been for many years. I tried to look up Mason and got nothing. My mom said he never talked about anything he just told her he had a meeting. So at the funeral, we notice it was army like, I'm sorry I'm not educated on this thing. But he had a army like funeral. I asked my mom about it. And she said he was a Mason. Ok. What do that mean. Do we as his decendance have some kind of rights or any attachments to him being a Mason. Or is it once they r dead that's it. The lodge he meet at is threw with his family.??? I have lots more questions but I'll just ask this one.

Sep 07, 2017
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Re: grand daughter of a mason
by: Tim

Dear grand daughter of a mason,

Please accept my condolences on the passing of your Grandfather.

There are certain benefits available to the family members of a Master Mason. However, the specifics of these benefits can vary between Masonic jurisdictions. Your best bet for accurate information would be to contact the Grand Lodge of the jurisdiction your Grandfather was a part of. They will be able to answer any questions regarding rights and benefits, as well as direct you to any other Masonic bodies he may have held membership with. You can generally locate contact information for the Grand Lodge office by doing a Web search using the phrase, Masonic Grand Lodge and adding the name of the State in which your Grandfather lived.

I hope this proves helpful and we wish you the very best.

Fraternally,

Tim

Sep 07, 2017
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Lost Luster
by: Anonymous

Tim, thank you for your endearing comments. No words can express my gratitude. What a way to explain it. I thought something similarly, but it makes sense what you said.

Sep 23, 2017
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Looking for family of missing ring
by: Anonymous

Hello, my mother in law passed away and we have found an antique Mason ring (yr'41) that she had that my husband and I would love to return to the family of W.E.H******* L******* ,this special ring has the above name, the date 11-11-'41 inscribed as well as some other details. Anyone have any information on how I can find the family please? My grandpa and my husband's grandfather were both Masons that have since passed so we know how much this ring could mean to someone. Any help is greatly appreciated. Please comment or contact me if you may be of any assistance. Thank y'all so much.
God bless,
[email protected]

Jan 23, 2018
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Masonic rings.
by: Anonymous

We found 2 Masonic rings in a recently deceased family members effects. Both were cut on the underside of the ring. One, we knew was cut, the mason died in a car crash and we had always heard they had to cut his rings off his hands. Why would the other be cut? Is there some tradition about cutting them??? (The older one, we are not even sure who it belonged to, and it is very very old. Can barely see the emblem!)

Jan 23, 2018
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Cut rings
by: Fred

Good afternoon and thank you for your question.

There is no Masonic reason for cutting rings, my son has several of mine that I no longer wear. Rings are sometimes cut to allow removal upon death, as the ring may be too small to get off of the deceased person’s finger. You might want to check the ring sizes, one may be smaller than the other, abs may have been cut to remove it for replacement by a newer ring.

Thanks

Fred

Apr 08, 2018
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Can I become a member.
by: Anonymous

Hello. Thank u for taken time to read this. I have a few question. I'm hired hand of Cecil women's wife I might for sure if it's his mom and dad that were the members their names are Harold and Patty I have all his certificates and pins and I also have the Hat I don't know if it's the leaders kind of hat but it's black with yellow and a Red Cross were there white feather or front to back I have read lots of his paperwork and did members and also was one of the Shriners and I have the Bible of the priest I do believe if anyone can help me with these questions I sure appreciate it can you contact at timothymullens18gmail.com thank you. The my condolences for your lose.....


Mr.Mullens

Apr 28, 2018
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by: Anonymous

throw it away! its demonic, you'll end up in hell like him I you keep it.

May 05, 2018
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Passing ring from father to son
by: Anonymous

My father would like to pass his Masonic ring to me, his son, after his death.
I know I should not rightfully wear the ring when it is passed down.
My question is if it is disrespectful for me to wear it on a chain around my neck?
I truly respect the religion and do not want go against it but at the same time I would like to have it on me as a constant reminder of his service.

Jul 08, 2018
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Re: Passing ring from father to son
by: Tim

Dear Anonymous,

Thank you for your consideration in asking this question. You are correct that Masons generally consider it improper for non-Masons to display Masonic symbols. Most Masons, however, will excuse a Mason's family members for wearing them. Personally, I would have no issue with you wearing your father's ring. I think wearing it on a chain around your neck is a good idea. Having it out of sight would ensure no confusion on the matter, and it would keep something that was special to your father close to your heart.

Thanks again for the question and for visiting Masonsmart.com.

Fraternally yours,

Tim

p.s. Freemasonry is not a religion. It's a fraternal organization that accepts men of all religious beliefs.

p.p.s. If you want to make sure no one questions why you're wearing a Masonic ring, you might want to consider becoming a Mason.

Jul 15, 2018
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Can a Masonic ring e reset?
by: Daughter in law

My husband inherited the ring his father wore as a master mason. We understand he can’t wear it. A jeweler told us we could have the stone reset into another ring that my husband could wear,

Could you confirm that for us?

Thanks so much.

Jul 15, 2018
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Ring reset
by: Fred

Dear Daughter in law,
Thank you for your question. Most Masonic rings contain a symbol of some sort designating the wearer’s membership in a Masonic organization. I, like navy many masons wear a ring that displays a simple Square and Compasses with the letter "G", the symbol of a master mason. The ring in question most likely contains a similar symbol, and even if reset, if the symbol shows, it represents membership in our fraternity. There are no laws prohibiting the wearing of Masonic regalia by non masons, it is not recommended. My concern is resetting the ring, removing any symbols, sled away the meaning of the ring. My suggestion is that your husband leave it intact, and either put it away, or if he feels a need to wear it, do so on a chain around his neck as a memorial. I’m sure that the other masons who read this page will assist with answerers. Thanks Fred

Jul 25, 2018
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Found Ring
by: Anonymous

I found a Masonic ring while traveling in Kern County, CA. It's inscribed "Lewis from Mother and Dad 1928". I'd love to return it to the owner. Do you have suggestions on how to find that individual? Thanks.

Jul 25, 2018
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Ring found
by: Fred

Good afternoon and thank you for your question.
You might start by contacting the Grabd Lodge of California. They will be best able to guide you

Nov 09, 2018
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N.P.D.
by: James J. F_________

Thank you for taking the time to read my question. I was raised to the degree of Master Mason in my 20's, inspired by my Father's involvement in Free Masonry. (He was 32nd degree) This isn't an excuse but just a matter of how it happened. Being married with two small wonderful children, job, swing shift, chores, my Father's passing, etc. I began attending fewer and fewer work meetings. I kept up my dues for a good number of years, but at some point I fell behind on them as well. I'm embarrassed to admit that I've been N.P.D. for many years now. I am 60 years old with more time on my hands and would like to once again be active in my Lodge. South Carolina, Springdale-412. I'm pretty sure I wouldn't know any of the current Brethren, but I'd like to get to know them. Please advise, I'm somewhat ashamed to ask this question on the local level, if you know what I mean. Thank you in advance. Kindest regards, J.J.F.

Nov 09, 2018
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Re: N.P.D.
by: Tim

Hello James,
and thank you for visiting Masonsmart.

N.P.D. is nothing to be ashamed of. Life happens, and Masonry is never to interfere with your higher duties to God, your family or profession.

I don't know the specifics within the jurisdiction of South Carolina. However, every Grand Lodge has a mechanism in place to deal with this situation and I expect they are all pretty similar. My guess is that you will need to petition your Lodge for reinstatement. The process will be similar to your original petition for initiation, except that you will likely not be required to go through the initiatory degrees again. You'll need to pay the current dues amount and possibly some back dues; that amount is generally defined in the Grand Lodge Bylaws, and I don't have access to those.

My suggestion would be to contact your Lodge Secretary or someone you know from the old days who might still be active, and let them know you want to return to good standing. They can give you specifics and advice on how to proceed. If you're not quite ready to contact your local Lodge, I would recommend contacting the Grand Lodge and ask them about the requirements and next step. Either way, yours is not an unusual situation and there is nothing to be ashamed of.

I wish you all the best, Brother.

Fraternally,
Tim

Nov 19, 2018
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Wearing Masonic ring
by: Randy

Wearing Masonic ring, Just before my dad passed away he told me he would have is Mason ring on during the Viewing and that they would take it off his finger before they close the casket and told me "wear this son " ???

Nov 19, 2018
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by: Tharn

I must confess that I have no idea what that means. It is, in my opinion, just a ring. You as his heir are free to do whatever you want with it.

Sorry about your loss.

Dec 08, 2018
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Meanings
by: Anonymous

What is the symbolic meaning when Mason's cough in a room?

Dec 11, 2018
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by: Bob

"What is the symbolic meaning when Mason's cough in a room?"

Um, it probably means somebody has a sore throat?

Dec 12, 2018
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What you should do
by: Ben

1. Become a Master Mason and wear that ring with pride.

2. Keep that ring and pass it on until a member of your family becomes a mason. I have a deep family history in masonry. My father was not one, there was a generational gap, (Baby Boomers suck). When I became a mason both sides of my family, out of nowhere, produced a treasure trove of Masonic regalia that meant the world to me.

Apr 10, 2019
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Do Freemasons retrieve rings
by: Anonymous

Two gentleman in suits showed up after my grandfather's death to retrieve his ring from my mother is this standard practice confused I read that the family is to charcish it so confused?

Apr 10, 2019
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Odd
by: Tharn

You didn’t say where this happened. Each jurisdiction has its own rules, but I have never heard of anything like this. Not ever.

Apr 18, 2019
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My Dad’s Masonic ring
by: DeeAnonymous

Hi I am the only child of my dad who died March 2018. He was a 32 degree mason my husband said I cannot wear the ring. Can I wear the ring if I turn the symbol around so it won’t show. Thank you in advance

Apr 19, 2019
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Two answers
by: Bob

First off, my sympathy for your loss.

With respect to the ring, there are two ways to look at it.

The first is the very correct, very stuffy, "No, you shouldn’t wear it because only 32nd Degree Masons are entitled to wear it." That’s perfectly valid.

The second is that you loved your dad and wearing it is a way to express that love. That’s equally valid, and it’s the way my thinking lies. You’re not pretending to be a Mason; you’re hanging onto somebody you love.

God bless.

May 04, 2019
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Wife/mother gives only daughter ring after death
by: Anonymous

I am also an only child, a daughter. My father was a 32nd degree Mason. We live in Western NC. Daddy always told me that if I ever saw a man with a ring on like his Masonic ring that he would help me. When my father passed, wonderful and kind men visited our home and the hospital speaking about the man my dad was. My mother and I were holding his hands when he passed. After which she took his wedding ring and Masonic ring and asked me to wear them saying he would want me to I’ve never taken them off.

May 04, 2019
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What a lovely story!
by: Thane

So sorry to hear about your father, but it is a very touching tale.

God bless.

Jun 05, 2019
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Masonic Symbol Shirt
by: Gladwin

Hi I'd like to find out if it'll be disrespectful or not if I wear my late Grandfather's Masonic Symbol Tshirts? I am not a Mason yet.

Jun 06, 2019
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Yet?
by: Bob

First, my sympathy at your loss.

There’s no hard-and-fast rule about that sort of thing. If I note you say that you’re not a Mason yet. If that means you are intending to become one, why not wait until then? They’d have a doubly-sweet meaning for you then.

If not, well, they’re just T-shirts. Carry on.

Jun 06, 2019
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Nice
by: Adam

Being a mason myself i am glad and so proud of you and any non masonic individual who has the respect to dispose of it in an honorable and worthy way to bring honor to the mason and our fraternity. Thumbs up

Jun 13, 2019
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Rings and joining pricess
by: Fredson

I usedto buy a masonic ring and i found myself to like it am i allowed to wear it?Also i need to be a mson what can i do please?

Jun 13, 2019
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Yes and No
by: Bob

Strictly speaking, only a Mason should wear a Masonic ring.

You will note from the posts above that some people feel an exception may be made if it is worn in memory of a loved one who was a Mason.

Does that apply to you? If not, then probably not. It's a free country, but it's not with our approval.

Jun 13, 2019
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Ring
by: Gred

Good evening,
If you found a ring, you should not wear it if you are not a mason, simply because you have not earned that privilege, or right.

To become a mason, you must ask to join, but you will be asked why you want to join the fraternity. You are the only person who can answer that question, and for each man, the answer is different.

Becoming a mason is slot of work, and takes a lot of time, and is a continuous journey.

What to go with the ring? Put it away until you earn it.

Thanks

Fred

Jun 17, 2019
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Can I wear my grandfather ring if he left it to me
by: Anonymous

My grandfather was a mason and he left me the ring to wear as I was told and I would be well takin care of I was his special granddaughter the youngest of all what should I do become a eastern star is OK to wear his ring what should I do granddaughter of master mason

Jun 17, 2019
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As noted
by: Bob

As I said above, there are two ways to look at it.

The first is the very correct, very stuffy, "No, you shouldn’t wear it because only Master Masons are entitled to wear it." That’s perfectly valid.

The second is that you loved your dad and wearing it is a way to express that love. That’s equally valid, and it’s the way my thinking lies. You’re not pretending to be a Mason; you’re hanging onto somebody you love.

God bless.

Aug 17, 2019
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found masonic ring
by: Anonymous

I found a 14k gold masonic ring out in the desert near Reno, NV. Right inside the California border. It has a name and date inside it. I can't find anything on the person though, but would love to return it.

Aug 17, 2019
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Found ring
by: Fred

Hello,
Thank you for your submission. The fact that you found the ring in California May it may not reflect where the member was from.

You have several options, if you have the member’s full name and possibly lodge number. The first option is to contact the grand lodge if each state, until you locate the subject members affiliation, which is the.best option, you can go to your local Masonic lodge and turn the ring in to them, and they may be able to get it home, you could post the engraved information here, and we might be able to find the member. Any option you take, I have no doubt that your efforts would be appreciated,

Once again, thank you for your submission, and thank you in advance for your attempt to get the ring home.

Fred

Aug 17, 2019
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Thank you Fred
by: Anonymous

Thank you for your information. The name inside is H.L. Stark and the date under it is 10/16/51. I will ask the local lodge and if you find anything out let me know. Thank you once again.

Oct 16, 2019
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Granddaughter of Mason wanting to pass down ring NEW
by: Kassira

My grandfather passed his Mason ring down to me right before he died in 1987. And was told to wear it and did. I have no kids to pass it down to. I know that if I give it to my brother, he can't wear it. Can I pass it down to a female relative?

Oct 16, 2019
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Dear Kassira NEW
by: Bob

As I noted in July, there are two ways to look at it.

The first is the very correct, very stuffy, "No, you shouldn’t wear it because only Master Masons are entitled to wear it." That’s perfectly valid.

The second is that you loved your Granddad and wearing it is a way to express that love. That’s equally valid, and it’s the way my thinking lies. You’re not pretending to be a Mason; you’re hanging onto somebody you love.

Your brother... well, he could become a Mason and wear it legitimately.

God bless.

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