Life of a Mason's wife

My soon to be husband has been thinking about becoming a Mason. I have been doing some research on the lifestyle of a Mason's wife and have found quite a few blogs by wives of recently joined Masons who state they are on the verge of a divorce due to the lack of her husband being home and not spending time with his family. My question to you is, if he did join the Masons is he going to be spending all his time with the Masons vs his family?

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Dec 20, 2014
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by: Fred

Don ask questiondin most't worry about it too much. Masonry is very extensive, and can be complicated. In short, the base if masonry is the local lodge, generally refereed to as a blue lodge. The blue lodge is the base upon which masonry is built. All masons must be members of a blue lodge, and most blue lodges meet once or twice a month. Most blue lodges do not meet in July and August. There are subsets of Masonry that can be joined, but that's each mason's personal choice. Your fiancee will most likely be interviewed before his initial introduction to the lodge, and the committee also wants to meet with the wives and fiancee to explain things. If you have questions, seek out the master of the lodge that your fiancee wishes to join, and ask questions, or ask a Master Mason, we're here to help
Dec 21, 2014
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by: Personal choice

Thank you for visiting.

How much time Masonry takes up is pretty variable. Members are encouraged to attend at least one, sometimes two meetings a month, maybe the odd weekend event. Above and beyond that, visitation at other lodges is encouraged (and in my city, there are a couple of dozen within easy drivng distance). And then there are comcordant bodies, offshoots - the best-known of those is probably the Shriners. Essentially, a man can spend an awful lot of time at it, maybe every single night.

All that said, Freemasonry teaches that a man must first comply with his duty to the deity he believes in. After that are the duties he owes to his nation and neightbours and to his family. That latter means that he should be supporting his family, spending time with his children, helping, loving and keeping close to his wife and so forth. The Craft comes last and most Masons would very much discourage a man from ignoring his family in favour of Masonry.

Does that always happen? Probably, almost certainly not. We are, after all, human and prone to errors. In fairness, though, what some, if not many, of those bloggers may well be complaining about is a symptom, not a cause. Men unhappy with their marriage will find reasons - excuses - to be away from home. He may spend more time at work or at a bar, for instance. Or he may get more involved with a club or group and Masonry is one of those. To be fair, I'd bet you could find similar blog comments from women whose husbands are never home due to playing golf, orienteering, amateur acting and so forth.

Bottom line is that no wife in a happy marriage should fear losing her husband to Freemasonry.

Hope that helps.
Jul 15, 2018
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by: Anonymous

I am a freemasons wife. He is in the upper ranks now and it's become a cult he worships. He has spent thousands of hours at lodge meetings, Grand Lodge and community events and meetings and events of all the associated groups. Ignoring our children, who struggles with health and behavior issues. I watched as his lodge friends struggles with problems and got unlimited support. When my kids and I were chronically sick we received almost no support at all. My husband has come to believe that all religions are the same and that the church is useless so he stopped going and our kids followed suit. He believes Jesus was like Buddha, that Christian ity came from kabbalkstic and mystical Egyptian teaching and states the Bible is crap. I have been mocked, ostracized, ignored, left to suffer with depression and chronic illness, left to raise my kids ony own, thanks to those hideous cult. O married what I thought was a kind man, only to have have him ignore the kids he is raising, spend our hard earned money on Masonic books and paraphanelia, treat me in a verbally abusive manner and but his lodge brothers before the well being of his family
Nov 13, 2018
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by: Tharn

I’m sorry to hear this. I suspect your husband needs to talk to his sponsor, because what you are saying is completely contrary to what we tell our new members, which is that family comes first. Moreover, any real Mason I know would be the last to suggest that a Mason can get out of a ticket or become a millionaire simply because of his connections. Most odd. Good luck to you.

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