I am interested in joining Freemasons but......

I want to join the Freemasons, but I'm having trouble getting my wife on-board. How can I get her to be on-board?

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Feb 02, 2011
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Freemasonry is Not Meant to Cause Strife
by: Tim

Thank you for this question.

I can't tell you how to get your wife on-board with you joining Freemasons. What I can tell you is that Freemasonry is not intended to interfere with your relations with your loved ones. Freemasonry is a commitment of both time and money, and if your wife is not in support of your Masonic endeavors it can and likely will cause strife at home. That would be entirely inconsistent with the teachings and goals of Masonry.

In some cases people have a negative opinion of the fraternity based on the conspiracy theories they have heard or seen in movies. In these cases they simply don't understand what Freemasonry is about, and spending some time with a member or two of the fraternity can help.

Some religious leaders dissuade the members of their congregation from becoming a Freemason. Again, this is generally due to a misunderstanding of the Craft. There are many religious leaders from every recognized religion who are Freemasons. Freemasonry encourages its members to be active in the church of their chosen religion. However, Freemasonry has nothing to do with that choice.

Some men have been known to take devotion to their Lodge to the extreme, and in some cases their wives and children may have felt neglected. This, to my mind, would be a valid objection to becoming a Freemason. The family should come first.

All I can tell you is your wife may have her reasons for not wanting you to become a Mason. If it's a simple misunderstanding then perhaps it could be cleared up by sitting down with some Masons and talking about it. If she is not certain of your commitment to the family, then you need to fix that first. Whatever her reasons you need to talk to her about them and respect her concerns.

Freemasonry is meant to help bring balance and harmony into your life. If instead it is the cause of strife, you may join the fraternity but you will never experience Freemasonry.

Thanks again for the question and my best to you both.

Fraternally,

Tim

Feb 02, 2011
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Thanks
by: Anonymous

Thank you for your comment, Tim. I was able to find out why she had a problem with me joining. And I will be joining soon.

Apr 07, 2011
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Taking good men and making them better.
by: Anonymous

My predecessor is a tough act to follow. His answer is very courteous, accurate, and eloquent, and what I as a Mason strive for.

When my interview team came to my home, they told me and my wife that Freemasonry "takes good men and makes them better". This was enough for my wife, and she jokingly (or maybe not) told them "If you can make him better, you can have him."

My wife has accompanied me to some Masonic functions, and we have a genuine love for the fraternity. As Tim described - family obligations are first. I have seen it demonstrated by my mentors, and it is a precious jewel that is passed down from those with experience to "us young guys" who would like to grow up to be like them. It is a win/win for all. It's a way to live a good life, and a way to embrace regular communication which is so rapidly being replaced in this technological world.

Thank you for reading.
jeff

Feb 18, 2012
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Interested
by: Anonymous

I am very interested in joint freemasonry but women, where do they stand in this? Are they allowed to be official members? Or members by association through husband?

Mar 26, 2012
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We're actually a Masonic family
by: Tim

The Masonic family, although it is termed a fraternity, is actually made up of several organizations. The Order of the Eastern Star is one in which men and women meet together. However, membership in the Star is predicated on the men being a Master Mason or the women being related to a Master Mason.

There is also a relatively new development called Co-Masonry, in which men and women may both join a Lodge. Co-Masonry is not yet recognized as Regular Freemasonry in most parts of the world, but who knows what the future may hold.

For more information on the opportunities and the different bodies of Masonry available to women please visit our page on "Can a woman become a Freemason." There you will find information and links to other sites regarding the various affiliated Masonic Bodies and Co-Masonry.

Thanks for visiting Masonsmart.

Tim

Feb 03, 2014
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How to locate a lodge near
by: James o

I am interested in becoming a maso,can you help locate a lodge near me ,I am from kaduna state Nigeria. Thanks

May 12, 2017
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i want to join the freemason in zambia who can help me
by: eraste Iradukunda

I see the number but no one can give me the answer what can i do now ?

Sep 03, 2017
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i like it NEW
by: Emmanoel paul moriati

i wont to be a mamber

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